Dear Hyde Park Family,

         Last week, I returned from spending a few days in San Diego, where my older daughter Grace is a junior at San Diego State. My younger daughter Madelyn flew over from Washington, D.C., giving the three of us a fun time to reconnect.

         One day, Maddy and I decided to hike up Cowles Mountain, the highest elevation in San Diego County. It is a 1.5-mile trail that ascends 940 feet above sea level. By the time we got to the top, our smart watches told us we climbed the equivalent of 62 flights of stairs. Though the trail was clearly marked, it was filled with stony, uneven terrain, making for a cautious hike the entire way up. Here is a picture of one of the steep, rocky inclines:

         Along the 45-minute walk up, there was a lot of time to ponder. And that meant time for this preacher to connect the hike with the experiences of life.

UPHILL AND DOWNHILL MOMENTS

         Life is filled with highs and lows, mountains to climb and valleys to descend. We’ve all experienced both. Uphill climbs are hard, as we navigate steep grades of struggle and suffering, and every step is a challenge. You may be going through such a time now.

Then we have better moments, over the top moments, when life feels like a downhill cruise full of freedom and joy.

But here’s the thing: often, it feels like both at the same time. Most moments can feel like an indistinguishable combination of both highs and lows. Struggling in some areas, liberated in others. That may be where you are right now, uphill and downhill, all at once.

And maybe that ambiguity is okay. Both the uphill and downhill moments offer us spiritual wisdom.

GRACE IN THE UPHILL

         As I climbed Cowles Mountain, it was obvious what a chore it was. My legs burned, my feet became sore, my back and shoulders began to ache. But because each step was treacherous, the uphill climb forced me to slow my pace, walk with intentionality, and be more mindful of each moment.

Uphill climbs, as hard as they are, prompt keener awareness, focus and clarity, and a greater appreciation of sites we might otherwise speed past.  You also exercise muscles that can be made stronger for the long haul. Going uphill might seem laborious, but it has its redemptive qualities.  It is tough, but it is good. 

GRACE IN THE DOWNHILL

       Walking downhill was a different story altogether! There was greater enthusiasm and energy, as Maddy and I believed that the worst was over. Our pace quickened; each step felt lighter.

But we discovered that going downhill also has its challenges. The walk might have felt easier, but the need to focus was even greater. We had to watch our feet to avoid even a slight misstep that could lead to a tumble. The wear of Maddy’s soles was more noticeable, and she slipped much more often going down than on the way up. At one point, she mused, “I think gravity can be both friend and foe.”

Downhill moments might feel more joyful, but they still require awareness. We have to be even more mindful of slowing down when life is going well, so that we can savor and be present to each moment. 

GRACE IN EVERY MOMENT

         There is both grace and caution in every moment of life, whether it is an incline, a decline, or most often, a combination of the two. We discover that a secret to a grounded life, one that is centered in Christ, is one that refrains from letting our highs get too high, or our lows from getting too low. Each moment brings reasons for gratitude, discipline, reflection, patience, and joy.

         By the time Maddy and I got down the hill and headed for our car, there was relief and a sense of pride in our accomplishment. There was also gratitude that we were able to experience it together, and that neither of us were alone.

         And neither are you.

Grace and Peace,

Magrey

Dear Lenten Pilgrims,

Five years ago, I wrote a Midweek Message titled “Ten Other Things You Might Give Up for Lent,” which was subsequently picked up and published by Ministry Matters, our denomination’s online publication. You may wish to refer back to it as a guide for your Lenten journey.

This year, I’ve decided to add to that list, with three more aspects of life that you might choose to surrender over to God:

Give Up Negative Self Talk

We all tend to be our own worst critics, and there is nothing inherently wrong with identifying ways to improve. But there comes a point when self-motivation can drift into self-mutilation, and you need to offer grace to yourself. Identify the triggers that get you wandering toward self-negativity, and before you go too far, remember that you are fearfully and wonderfully made, and deeply loved by God. (Psalm 139:14)

Give Up Confirmation Bias

Whether we realize it or not, we each have implicit biases that govern the way we seek, process, and internalize information that confirms our prior beliefs and values. There may come a point where such confirmation bias insulates us from an awareness of and appreciation for a diversity of perspectives, and diminishes our capacity for empathy and the possibility of reconciliation. Adopt a mindset of openness to opinions that are not your own, so long as those opinions are not harmful to others. Diversify the sources from which you get your information. Assume a posture of humility, curiosity, and empathy in your conversations with others. (1 Corinthians 3:1-9)

Give Up Your Fear of Taking the Next Step

We would all prefer our lives to have more certainty and less ambiguity. We would love to have our future paths brightly illuminated and unmistakably clear. But God doesn’t always guide us in this way. What we have, most of the time, is just enough clarity to take the step that is before us, without knowing what next step is beyond that. As hard as it is to live this way, this is how we develop trust and obedience in our relationship with God. Take things one step at a time, at God’s pace, in God’s direction. Over time, you will discover that self-surrender – and not self-reliance – will move you into the bright future God intends for you. (Proverbs 3:5-6)  

Grace and Peace,

Magrey

Dear Hyde Park Family,

As we begin this Lenten journey, we join our hearts and spirits in prayer for the devastation occurring in the country of Ukraine and the trauma experienced by its people around the world. We pray for an end to violence, comfort for the mourning and frightened, and an emergence of strong leadership to rise against tyranny and injustice.

May we be guided by the words of this spiritual anthem of the people of Ukraine. It is called “Prayer for Ukraine,” written by Oleksander Konysky, and is often sung at the conclusion of worship services in the Ukrainian Greek Catholic Church and the Orthodox Church of Ukraine.

PRAYER FOR UKRAINE

Lord, oh the Great and Almighty,

Protect our beloved Ukraine,

Bless her with freedom and the light

Of your holy rays.

With learning and knowledge enlighten

Us, your children small,

In love pure and everlasting

Let us, oh Lord, grow.

We pray, oh Lord Almighty,

Protect our beloved Ukraine,

Grant our people and country

All your kindness and grace.

Bless us with freedom, bless us with wisdom,

Guide us into a kind world,

Bless us, oh Lord, with good fortune

Forever and evermore.

To continue in the spirit of this beautiful prayer, you might join us this Sunday at the 11:00 a.m. traditional service, as the Chancel Choir offers a rendition of this song.

UKRAINE RELIEF

In addition to prayer, you might choose to make a financial contribution to the efforts of our denomination’s relief agency, the United Methodist Committee on Relief (UMCOR), which is in communication with partners in the region and actively exploring the coordination of humanitarian response in Ukraine. You can give through this link, and to read more click here. 

THIS SUNDAY: OVERFLOWING

We begin a new Lenten worship series this Sunday titled “Overflowing: Living Life to God’s Fullest.” It invites us into an expansive embrace of God’s grace and forgiveness, through the self-emptying practices of obedience and surrender. To receive daily text messages that connect you to words of inspiration, encouragement, and prayer, click here. 

Dear Hyde Park Family,

See you Sunday!

Magrey

THIS SUNDAY: DIANA BUTLER BASS!

We are excited to welcome noted author and speaker Diana Butler Bass this Sunday, Feb. 27. She will preach our morning sermon, then offer a lecture on the subject of gratitude from 4-6 p.m. in the Harnish Center. It will include a book signing, where you can purchase a copy of “Grateful: the Subversive Art of Giving Thanks.” To register for the event, click here.

RECEIVE DAILY WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMENT THIS LENT

March 6 begins the season of Lent, with a worship series titled “Overflowing.” Our journey will be one of self-emptying and surrender, so that we can be filled to overflowing with the love and grace of God. Our journey will feature daily text messages that you can receive to give you brief insights and words of encouragement along the way. To sign up, click here.

Dear Hyde Park Family,

I love sessions with my therapist. They have been an important key to maintaining emotional wellness during this long, difficult season of life and ministry. Those of you with such a relationship with a therapist know these benefits; I’m grateful for mine.

At our first session years ago, she concluded by inviting me to answer two questions, which have marked the ending of each session ever since:

1. What is one thing you are proud of since the last time we met?

2. What is one thing you are looking forward to?

At first, those questions were hard to answer, especially during sessions when I felt so burdened by the present. I’ve since learned that this is precisely the point. The first question recalls and redeems the past; the second question anticipates and draws strength from the future. Both questions, together, have helped me get unstuck from the present.

It is now my favorite part of our sessions, and I ponder the answers before I arrive. More importantly, I have learned to ask these two questions of myself even between sessions, finding encouragement in the process.

I hope you have a person in your life with whom you can share answers to these questions., may it be a family member, friend, trusted colleague, or perhaps a professional therapist. You will discover that relationships like these, in which you can celebrate yourself without being perceived as boastful, will nourish you for the long haul.

If you’re willing, I would even love to hear your answers to these questions in this moment.

What are you proud of over these last few weeks?

What are you looking forward to?

I celebrate you!

Grace and Peace,

Magrey